"Live-in Relationships and Dowry - Should we or shouldnt we?"
Admin said : So Finally after a long time, a new debate but why a old one. It is old but it is not dead. The debate is still live on these issues and if we don't open up to discuss these things in public and give our take on these issues, I am sorry to say, we are going dead and the issue will keep living.
nisha ahlawat said : i think ppl really like d whole idea of live-in relationship is coz it is so different frm d whole concept of marriage. n nw d probs related to marriage are creepin their way into live-in relationshp too,makes m feel sad . looks like v r never gonna get off frm d shabbles of dowry even after 60 yrs of independence.
rohit mangal said : When Preity zinta and saif ali khan shared an onscreen live-in relationship, people likes it and enjoyed. But in real indian scenario, live in relationship is still not acceptable, it is seen as against indian culture. However with the amount of independence and privacy included in such a relationship, anyone would think it to be an ideal move. But one needs to really dig into the pros and cons of living together to know what he or she is getting into. Because, yet they are in live in relationship but still demand of dowry is there which leads to bitter relationship and in some cases lead to the exploitation of both partner. As in recent case, this year in delhi,where Mr. subbarao demands for dowry makes him to reach supreme court by his live in partner and subbarao claims that no charge should be claimed against him as they are not married. But supreme court did not agree at all, saying, "such legal niceties would destroy the purpose of provisions.Such hairsplitting legalistic approach the encouragement the harassment of woman over demand of money".
Gaurav Mitrani said : India..we, young India - today's India - have transcended many old customs and rituals and orthodox beliefs that are no more prevalent...Then y is the debate still going on the old and same issue...Well in today's broadminded society dowry custom shud no more be discussed...it is clearly a social evil as it is noway in the favor of girls' family, and sometimes against their will and if we are democratic with equal rights to everybody DOWRY is out of question to be in the society and ans is "WE SHUDN'T" for DOWRY.. LIVE IN relationships are a kind of something new to our people.. People know it, but practicing it is still a vague idea as this is something new to us and our old social culture doesn't permits such relations but we shud realize that we are living in global world and cultures and traditions are taking a new color by just assimilation of different geographic demography, and if our constitution gives right to freedom to every body it is upto him/her that what kind of relation he or she want to keep...If they want to be in a LIVE IN they can be..There shudnt be any social prohibition on any kind of personal choice...and anybody has no right to decide for somebody else... So LiVE - IN WE SHUD OR SHUDN't is upon OUR DISCRETION...
VIGNESH MOHAN BHATT said : well.. LIVE-IN relationships were all created by westerners who in the name of fashion are destroying even the nature and roots of the people all over the world..people should understand that the most number of DIVORCED cases are in the west... the whole concept of marriage has been made a joke nowadays... but one should understand that LIVE-IN relationships would never make any sense... if we keep sharing oneself with the other then what's the difference between animal and human beings...?? the whole purpose of life is defeated...and what makes it more worse is that each and every relationship is weighed upon the background of the bride... one should understand that money is just a paper which was created by man to run the administration smoothly...and that should never be given a priority more than the sacred thing like marriage or relationship... even if its a LIVE-IN relationships or MARRIAGE,,,,.. money should never be the prima facie for a relationship... because when u die. u r never gonna take anything with u.... so one should always remember "LIVE LIFE........... BUT NEVER BUY LIFE......"
anand said : see, at first we need to understand that live-in relationship is not a new concept only it has put forward in new catchy name.priviously the relations which were not accepted by society due to castism or whatsoever reasons were continued alongwith married life as we call it as extra-marital affairs.new thing is that live-in is now considered as alternative to marrage,its dam dam bad thing as it would lead to uncertainty in life of relation that we love most ,conseently it may lead to increased fustration and problems in relation. i am fo opinion that ,once decide carefully your partner and spend whole life with him or her by wedding ceremoniously,last but not least appose dawry.
virender said : people are moving into live-in-relationships to escape from the bindings of marriage, set by the society implicitly and the law explicitly.The recent court decision in this regard is a blow to this 'conceived' freedom.Marriage is a social institution and cracks in it, in long term, will impact not only social sphere but economic and political as well. We are fortunate enough to have western society as a proof of it.Having said that i believe that every individual must have liberty to choose his/her own path and use of force(law) will only deteriorate the situation.I hope we will be able to preserve the institution(marriage) through the value system embedded in our society.Dowry in any system is bad and must be dealt with strictness.
SAURABH said : in the era of globalization,india is not aloof from the world's changing fabric.MNCs have entered in india with the fast food culture already paved its paths into small towns.people are getting more liberal and objective in their thoughts and they are shunning their age old practicse and beliefs.live in relatonships is the reality of today and it is here to stay,the earlier we accept the better it is.people are increasily demanding thier privacy and their freedom to live thier life by thier own way.they are well on their way of "WE DONT NEED EDUCATION,WE NOT NEED FALSE CONTROL" by Pink Floyd.
Rashmi Dutta said : India the confluence of cultures and customs is profoundly changing due to globalisation. Todays generation is forgetting societies norms and rules. They don't want to take responsibilities.they are backing freedom on the name of live-in relationship because they don't want to be committed .marriage is an institution which makes us responsible. these concepts are western counties gifts where most of the divorce cases are prevalent.each norm and rule of the society is based on some reason so we have to respect them...Dowry is such type of curse for the human society which human beings have themselves created. i want to suggest to the advocates of the dowry system that they should think that the bride herself is the dowry for their family and they should respect her.
Mohd Zubair Saifi said : Well for most of the people "Dowry" may seem to be a thing of utmost injustice. But I don't think so..I see it in different angle. How many parents in India actually give girls their half share of inheritance...Hardly any..."Dowry" as a system was instituted to provide equal share of property to a daughter after she gets married in rupees and other items. I really think that if every family starts giving her daughter her valid and legal half share of their wealth, the question of dowry would go away altogether. I should make myself very clear that I am not a supporter of force and coercion for dowry, but I feel that its Indian tradition of giving daughters their legal right....Comments are wholeheartedly invited...
ashish vishal said : frnds..
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